Dear Rhoda,

Bast
We miss you already. You were one of the good ones.


Bast
For my young self, and many others, you were a great role model.

Cooch
From you we learned that you need to keep going no matter what, and to express yourself in the face of change and adversity.

Bast
That women can be strong, independent, fashionable, and still have moments of self-doubt. And that they don’t have to be good cooks or housekeepers.

Cooch
I always felt your sarcasm and cynicism masked a profound belief that people are good and the universe is kind. Even though your apartment was smaller than hers, and your job wasn’t as stable, I felt you were much more optimistic than Mary was. Hmmm, maybe that’s because you had to wiggle and claw your way through life.

Bast
Just re-watched the end of the episode about your wedding. Phyllis was supposed to pick you up but she forgot, so you took the subway to your own wedding. You, girl, got shit done.

Bast
Watching the show through 50-something-year-old eyes, those messages still resound. Maybe it’s even more important for us to hear them now.

Cooch
Now, because the older you get the more difficult it is to carry that energy and determination every day.

Bast
You start carrying everything and everybody. And you hit the wall.

Cooch
So we have to imagine what you’d say, Rhoda. How would you deal with too many demands, an unfulfilling career, misogyny, and a world spinning out of control?

Bast
Probably pretty much the way you always did.

Cooch
By finding that one piece of you that’s true, keeping it alive and letting it tell its story, in whatever way it can.

Cooch
Writing, singing, decorating windows. Maybe marching in the streets.

Bast
Persisting as a keyboard warrior. Writing op eds. Telling your truth.

Cooch
Bloxting once in a while. In your honour, Rhoda, this bloxt’s for you. RIP.

Bast
With love, TFC.

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